Thank you for those comments and as you say there are many in the same situation. I cant understand why these people make so many excuses for JW behaviour (apart from the brainwashing that is). I know someone who's mother is ill and a JW. Her daughter is a SPIRIT MEDIUM and takes her to hospital, does her mums housework and visits often. The JWs are aware of this but will turn a blind eye to her associating with her daughter rather than help this woman out herself.
Mind you, if I was my mum's only daughter she would have to accept help from me, but because I have two JW brothers and an inactive sister (who lives with her boyfriend and shouldn't be classed as a JW but they turn a blind eye to it.) She looks after my mum) and has social nights out with JWs too because she has not been disfellowshipped. so corrupt! :-( x